About Em

Hi, I'm Em Chiappinelli. I'm an integrative breathworker, writer, program facilitator, and event organizer living in northern Virginia.
The land where I live features rolling ridges, sporadic forest and small creeks bordering the Blue Ridge. It's the traditional homelands of the Manahoac, Shawnee, and Piscataway Indigenous tribes, and was a site for the enslavement of Africans for a period of time. Now, it's a hub for small-scale organic farmers sharing land and knowledge with each other.
I am drawn toward exploring how our felt senses of connection and disconnection inform the struggles we encounter in ourselves and in our world.
I love exploring these things with others, in ways where people get the chance to learn from each other through the convergences and differences in our life experiences. I feel like I am always in a process of co-learning, and I aim to create spaces where that can happen in ways that feel supportive, real, honest, and exciting.
Read on to learn more about my story and how I got to Everyday Aliveness.
My Background Story
My work started out with helping small businesses and organizations improve their worker, community, governance, and environmental practices. I worked in a field called "impact measurement:" the process of understanding as best we can the social and environmental impact businesses or organizations have, and identifying areas to lessen harm and improve quality of life from within organizations. I worked with small businesses, worker cooperatives, nonprofits and entrepreneurs in different settings to explore how they could track and hold themselves accountable to high standards of good work.
I still love helping organizations re-work their internal culture to do things like distribute power, bring in more democratic decision-making, or include their workers in open-hearted visioning processes. But at a certain point, I felt like the work I was in wasn't incorporating some of the deeper layers of how/why we each work the way that we do, and how that influences the ways we work together. So alongside my jobs, I began exploring schools of thought that focused more on the inner and interpersonal aspects of our experience.
Over the course of about ten years, I lived at a Buddhist monastery in Yangon, Myanmar, to learn more about everyday awareness and perception. I lived and worked in a land-based spiritual community in West Virginia that taught practices for expanding awareness through the tasks we do throughout daily life. I got trained in how to strengthen my intuitive perception and joined a school that taught different ways to explore our experience of consciousness. I got certified in permaculture design and learned from formal and informal teachers about how to broaden the scope of my considerations to include more than just humans. I joined learning/practice groups focused on unearthing white supremacy culture in ourselves, our relationships, and the things we create. I learned about how to create rituals for others and how to be ritually connected to the people and places I come from over a broader span of time.
The takeaway that has lingered with me the longest from these experiences is that whether or not we're aware of it, many of us have been taught to be disconnected from a seemingly endless number of things:
Our bodies, our hearts, parts of ourselves. The land, plants, and our non-human neighbors. The seasons, the elements. Our ancestry. Subjugated histories. The people we have been taught to be opposed to, the groups of people the dominant culture has denounced over time. People who are different from us, depending on how we identify and the structural divides between us. It's different for each of us, but governs how we relate to each other and the broader world, and the actions we are driven to take.
I feel that these disconnections inform our worldview and influence us, often unconsciously, to perpetuate a culture of disconnection at all scales of relating - with different parts of ourselves, with each other, and with the ecosystems we live in. This is not the case for all of us, but what I offer here is designed for those of us who feel any level of disconnection to the things that matter most in our lives. When we begin to heal these disconnections, my hope is that we grow within us an ability to feel and contribute to the great shifts that are called for in our lives.
My Offerings
Everyday Aliveness exists to create opportunities to expand our perception and our sense of connection through the disconnections we have internalized, different though they may be. I aim to offer this in everyday ways, like through breathing, noticing, and reflecting; activities that can stoke connection in daily moments, in our lives as they currently are. I focus on supporting people to grow their connection anywhere, in the hope that it strengthens connection everywhere.
I have found some modalities I love and designed some activities that open up more perception and connection, which you can read about below. I also hope this to be a growing home over time to house more and more opportunities to grow connection. There are so many people out there doing something like this in their own way; there are limitless ways to do this. Check out the
resource library
for a few more.
Breathwork offers a potent way of opening up our perception, especially our unconscious perceptions, and entering into connection with parts, people, and perspectives that we have been disconnected from. I do one-on-one sessions with clients, and also offer introduction to breathwork circles for folks who want to dive into it in a group/open discussion format.
I offer a public three-month group journey/inquiry exploring how we experience connection and disconnection in our daily lives. This program is a daily adventure into nonordinary awareness towards the aim of growing connection wherever it's hard to feel it in regular life, and to hear from others how they are experiencing and growing connection in their own lives.
I also offer services for ethical organizations wanting to engage in thoughtful self-reflection. My favorite offering for organizations is a facilitated employee visioning session, where I bring in breathwork and rounds of sharing to spark idea generation and input from workers or team members on the direction they want to see their organization go.
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